Ankur Banerjee

Ankur Banerjee

Friday, November 28, 2014

"MAN" on Poetry...

Men- A second kind of species in Human race created by the AL-mighty, and often forgotten of, because everyone is either busy pleasing a girl or discussing their problems and yea obviously those discussions and problems are of girls and women.
Let me ask of a very normal question
Have you ever heard of a song- a love song dedicated to a MAN?
or let us take it this way, Do anyone remember any song dedicated to Men? because yea there are songs on boys but neither people really knows about them nor they want to know.

Here you get an answer where does this species rest in mankind, they do have feelings, a heart to love, eyes to cry and hands that work really hard to make a world an easy place to stay in for the girl he cares about, or child he is father to.

They Love, Care, and is Honest to the one he loves .
"Falling in love feels like an accidental occurrence to many people, but in spiritual terms it is not -- it is the entrance point to love's eternal journey." 

Ultimately what men and women want is the same -- they want to feel connected, they want to feel attraction, and to experience passion. A man is looking for a woman with a smile. Men bond with women when men feel successful in making them happy. A woman needs to focus less on making her man happy -- and focus more on how he makes her happy.

And one example of such LOVE, from someone who loves, cares and is honest to his WIFE and CHILDREN is what we need to read and learn from.
He is 50+ years old but is still romantic enough to write and speak in ways we can rather think of. He in his way spoke about his love to his love, who was somewhat angry on him, and managed to get her back before the feelings hurt her, and bring a soft smile on her face.

This is about Mr. Aggarwal, kudos to his Love towards mrs Aggarwal, and his ways of expressing it in front of her and this is what he wrote in his anniversary this year when mrs. Aggarwal got angry on him and reading it left her on tears and feeling loved as always.

Here it Goes...

Dukh se, Dukh se nahi thi Yaari,
Kyonki jimmedari thi hamari.

Jab tak nibhate rahe jimmedari,
Tab tak naastik the hum vichari.
Aaj jab Dukh ne ki hai dosti yaari,
To hum bhi ban gae Aastik vichari.

Aaj jimmedari nahi thi humari,
To dukh ne dosti ki humari.

Jimmedari me sukh tha jeewan yapan,

Lekin aaj dukh ne china apnapan.

Bari ajeeb leela hai tumhari,
kabhi khushi, kabhi gamm ki di hai bimari.

Kabhi naa khush the wo humse,
Aur kabhi naa khush the hum unse,
Kyonki vicharo me bhinnata thi humari.
Aaj 22 saal ho gae shadi ko humari,
Lekin samajh na sake ek duje ki vichari.

Hume pyaar jatana nahi aata,
tabhi to unhe muskurana nahi aata.
Muskurate hai hum to veefarte hai wo,
kyonki pyaar unhe paana nahi ata.

Shak me wo ulajhte rahe,
Tabhi to wo veefarte rahe.
Na jane kyon Hum ,
                     Fir bhi unhi pe marte rahe.

Jeevan kabhi chandni raat hogi,
yahi soch kr jeevan jite rahe.
Tabhi to hum ise,
                   Shaadi ka samjhota samajhte rahe.

Khaai thi kasme jine marne ke,
Tabhi to hum marte marte jeete rahe.

Guruji ko jab sunaya humne,
To muskurae Guruji bole humse-
Ye kya aachari, vichari,
Jimmedari laga rakha hai?

Khade raho yahi,
             Saja hai Tumhari...

we all deserve the love that we give, and desire it to come back to us.
where we say- " All of me Loves all of you. Give your all to me, I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning, Even when I lose I'm winning
Cause I give you all of me, And you give me all of you."

Love isn't that easy to find, nor is it easy to stay in Love.
So take care when you fall in love, and when you are in Love.

Because, there's no feeling like Love, nor there will be.
Have Faith, Have trust, win over love,stay in Love, make Love and grow Love as you grow old. So, when you are 80 and you have you partner sitting with you with her head on your shoulders and her hands in yours, You can smile at her and say- "Baby you are old now, but you now what? 
I lost my strength now, but I can still try and hug you that tight as I used to do, and kiss you the way I always did, and the only change in that will be that I'll be teeth-less... I wont be biting you any more."


Now thats LOve. hehhe!!

#feelingloved                               #marryouanyway                        #dontmatterwhatyousay<3

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience and two people who truly want to be together.” ~ THOUGHTS.
My Girl Friend and I were going through a difficult time since a few months. It felt like a pivotal time in our relationship. People say that commitment isn’t easy and you have your ups and downs. Well, we were definitely experiencing a low point.
We had been together for several years; we had been college sweethearts and were each other’s best friends.
During this time we had several issues going on in our life, one of which was my GF being out of interst and trust, and suffering with anxiety, depression, and a lack of self-esteem and confidence as a result. Our relationship was in a bad place and we were being tested.
We were not spending any quality time together, nor were we going out together as a couple (my GF loved herself more than she loved US).
We didn’t feel like each other’s friends, let alone the lovers and best friends we had grown to be. At times we even felt like strangers—or even worse, each other’s enemies. We were forever fighting, bickering, and whining at each other.
After a lot of heartache and many heated arguments, we realized we could no longer go on like this. When we stopped to analyze the situation, we asked ourselves several questions:
Did we still love each other? Did we still want to be married? Had everything changed so much that we just couldn’t work things out?
Once we decided we wanted to be in our relationship, we each made a commitment to start treating each other differently.
We hoped that, with a new perspective and our mutual love and respect for each other, we could start working together and make the change we so desperately needed. We hoped that a change in attitude and behavior would salvage our Relationship.
The following four elements became very critical in our relationship and might help us retain our relationship, as well as making it stronger for the future. 
1. Communication.
During this rough period we stopped communicating clearly. It’s funny how, as human beings, we withdraw from each other when there is a sign of trouble or misunderstanding.
We decided to consciously work on our communication. We spoke in “I” statements rather than “you” statements.

We expressed how we felt rather than blaming a situation on the other person. “I” statements work because they show how you feel, whereas “you” statements create a sense of accusation and blame.
This helped us be open with how we felt, stopped us from shutting each out, and allowed us to talk about our issues in a productive and efficient way.
2. Appreciation.
We were feeling a lot of resentment toward each other, and not feeling loved and appreciated, so we put in place a daily appreciation comments. Keeping a personal Gratitude feeling is a great asset; it makes you focus on the positive in your life and leads to happiness.
Keeping a gratitude feeling as a couple had the same benefits and gave us hope. It forced us to focus on the positives of the day and not just the negative events or what the other person did or didn’t say. It made us appreciate the other person and see them for the person we fell in love with.

It also made us feel good to be acknowledged and appreciated for what we had done on a daily basis. It helped to hear the other person say thank you, even though we were being thanked for doing our expected roles—me, for going to ignore any small cliché of things done wrong between us, and Ninja for taking over a sense of responsibility, understanding and showing what she feels for me then just telling “what she feels”.
It was important for us to hear the gratitude from the other person so we didn’t feel like we were being taken for granted.
3. Quality time as a couple.
It was also helpful for us to schedule quality time with each other—getting out of the Hostels and spending time together away from all the issues of our life; taking the step back and just being with each other.

It’s important to set some time aside to just be a couple; spend quality time together regularly, but especially during hard times. This doesn’t need to involve money; just a walk down the park together or along the beach will help. Just taking yourself out of your hostel environment will be beneficial.
We enjoyed each other’s company once again and started to feel more happiness as a couple.
4. Showing love as the other person wants to receive it.
We both still loved each other, but didn’t really feel that we were loved. I’ve read books and articles about how people receive and give love differently. Your partner may not perceive love in the same way as you; and remember, someone’s perception is their reality.
How your partner receives your love is important. You can’t assume the other person knows that you love them.

For myself, I feel loved when people spend quality time with me, making the effort to talk to me and listen. Ninja, on the other hand, receives love by affirmations, people giving her compliments and positive statements.
With this in mind we made an effort to show each other love in ways that we knew would make each other feel loved on a regular basis.
By doing all of this we started to feel like we were in a loving marriage and that weren’t battling through our difficult life on our own. We had each other there for the support we needed. 
We look back on this time as a lesson learned. We feel proud that we got through it and grateful that our relationship is stronger. We faced the challenge and came out on top.
We now practice these simple things every day to grow together and maintain a good and loving relationship.
We can be confident that by using these simple techniques, we can face the many challenges life throws at us together, such as getting away for jobs and family disputes that come along at times when we bring our love in front of them.
If you are fortunate enough to share your life with someone you love, then you owe it to yourself and your partner to make an effort every day in your relationship.
They say love conquers all and that all you need is love, but unfortunately a solid relationship needs more than that. It requires being there for each other, showing support, feeling loved, being grateful that you are sharing your lives together, and above all, showing your appreciation every day.

Because that person is really LUCKY who has a –Best Friend,a -Girl Friend and a-wife out of the same person”

                          -Ankur Banerjee.